Monday, March 31, 2008

March 2008

March 2008

Most of the month of march went well it really did. Then at the end of the month She said things are over out of the blue. I took it well enough but tried to understand it and didn’t want things to end.

Stunt boy and I were getting along well - he had his OotM competition and his team lost but they did do very well in the competition. CPG and doodle did come to the event but were late and did not arrive in time to see him perform. CPG played it off as she had seen the whole thing even thought she got there right as it was ending She did the same thing when doodle was in a play in the 6th grade. Missed the whole thing and pretended to have made it to the play. I didn’t say anything to Stunt-boy and let her tell her lies to him because ultimately it would hurt him more and CPG will still keep doing the same thing.

Doodle ignored me at the OotM event and didn’t even speak to me in person. This was I because she wants to get a tattoo. Doodle is still living in West by god and still not talking to me, doesn’t answer my phone calls. She did send me an e-mail asking about getting a tattoo at 16. I advised the following:


We've already talked about this before and you know I'm not against them because I have them. However, this is a life time thing and it is very expensive to get them taken off and 10 times more painful than getting a tattoo. Who you are today is not going to be who you are at 25 or older. By that I mean what you like and find appealing will change over time too and seeing a tattoo on your body every day has to be something you aren't going to get sick of or wish you had not have gotten in the first place. I just don't want you to make a decision now that you will regret a few years down the road. Ultimately it is your body and it's your choice what you want to put on it or not. There is no hurry to get a tattoo, they've been doing them for several thousand years and are not likely to stop doing them any time soon. I think the where you get it is important especially as you are not 18 yet.

I want to think about this some more before a say yes or no. I would tell anyone regardless of their age to wait it out a while and see if it is really something you like and want to have on your body forever and too really think about what it means to you to have a tattoo and that particular design because it is forever. Also think about the nose ring, I know you had some problems with it but you also said you got tired of it too. That was an easy fix, just take it out and it's done. However this isn't the same. You can't just take a tattoo off when you are tired of it. I'm not preaching I want you to think about it and let me know how you feel about why you want the tattoo.

I love you and will listen to you and what you have to say about this. Hope everything else is going well.

Love always,

dad


She never responded back to the e-mail or called during the month nor did she answer the phone calls made and as already stated didn’t talk to me in the middle of the month when she was here.

The bright side is that she did at least come with my mother to see her brother. My mother was also very nearly late for the performance. They, CPG, Doodle, the beta unit, all left as the OotM after the play is waiting for grades and doing a Q and A bit so it’s a lot of sitting around and waiting and boring stuff. However, for stunt boy it’s partly boring partly nervous energy waiting for your turn to come up and while not a lot of action is exciting. I can put myself in his shoes and be there for him. I have tried to be there for both of my kids things 100% of the time.

I have missed a lot of doodle things in West Virginia however I drove to three football games to watch her cheer she talked to me at two of them. One I was late for but I sat in the rain with the handful of others watching her it was an away game for her team so I drove three hours to the game to drive three hours back that night.

I wish I could be there for everything it kills me that I miss what I do miss.

March ends



Have a great day and play nice in the neighborhood.

Ciao,