You can't carry it with you, if you want to survive

Dating is supposed to be fun and I guess that it is fun while it is going on. Finding someone to spend a lot of time with is difficult. My advise for young people is to date as much as you can, date a many people as you can, make a lot of friends, be as vivacious as you are comfortable being. That may mean that you are the wall flower at a party but you are a wall flower at a party not a homebody on a sofa. By dating a lot of people I don’t mean have sex with a lot of people, while it may sound like loads of fun it isn’t really all that rewarding and leaves deep empty hollow places in you that are hard to fill back up. This can also lead to wonderful parting gifts like STDs and children. Have realistic expectations that you are good enough, smart enough and gosh darn it people like you but the Victoria Rae Blacks and Johnny Depps of the world are not going to date you. Be yourself but don’t be uncompromising. Yes there should be limits to what you do but if you’ve never had Thai food go, have Thai food, unless you are allergic to peanuts then maybe you shouldn’t the Thai really seem to like peanuts. The point is try new things, if you don’t like it fine at least you know why you don’t like it. Be bold but with more than just food, there a lot of things to try in the world. I’m not sure why all of a sudden dating is more like work than having fun. I suppose people have this expectation that they can’t go out with someone they wouldn’t eventually want to marry or at the very least have a serious relationship. Not really sure what either of those things means to most people anymore. I do know several people who I think are in good marriages but I don’t know if they are or they are not. Mainly because I don’t ask, but I assume they are good because they don’t complain. Then I know people who only complain about their partners and I have to wonder, what is the point of it all if you can’t stand the other person? Dating in the work place is a bad idea because statistically all relationships fail on a long enough timeline, all of them. So unless you want to find a new job once the love of your life because the person whose photo is now glued to a voodoo doll it’s better to look else where for romance. Romance, what the hell does that mean? Aren’t we really just looking for companionship? Someone who won’t drive us batty after an hour on a road trip and if you are really lucky you get to see naked now and then. Although I don’t even like seeing me naked so I imagine no one else would fancy it either. Mostly though I think people have this very fucked up way of looking at interpersonal relationships that are born out of fairy tales, romance novels and Hollywood happily ever after bullshit which makes it all but impossible to find happiness anymore. Doesn’t mean I still don’t try, part of me is still a heart on my sleeve romantic, that has been kicked in the teeth by love more times than I care to admit. Part of me is a cynic that truly believes love is nearly dead lying face down in a ditch on the wrong side of the tracks. I’m not sure why anyone does it other than we all must be a bit sadistic and masochistic to endure what we call romantic relationships. However, I think that for who ever we are in this world no one wants to be alone and because of that we are willing to endure unimaginable amounts of pain, even if the rewards are few and far between. For most of us being alone is a hell unlike any other and we will do almost anything to avoid being with just ourselves, because you may be your own least favorite person. Then we wonder why all our relationships seem to unravel we don’t even like us, how is anyone else suppose too. My problem is that while I don’t particularly like me, I like me a lot more than I like a lot of other people and I enjoy my own company most of the time. I’ll figure it out one of these days or someone who can stand me for more than an hour will end up crossing my path. Well, that’s all for now, other stuff to follow most likely Happy Birthday if it’s your birthday and a very merry un birthday if it isn’t your birthday Today’s Title: Lyrics from Dog Days by Florence and the Machine Thank you for reading, please subscribe, Have a great day and play nice in the neighborhood. Ciao, PS 3 / PS4 Gamer Tag: invisible don Invisible Don PO Box 4425 Roanoke VA 24015 Send me Post Cards … I love Post Cards