Hope bites the dust behind all the closed doors

The one thing that makes me tired of all the connectedness and not just being connected 24 seven, is just other people in general. Everyone thinks they are right all of the time, without any discussion or presentation of fact. They are right and you are wrong. No one bothers to listen or give anyone a chance to speak or explain. They talk over, ridicule, steer the conversation off topic if you can even call it a conversation, bad mouth, scream, rant, rave, they will do almost anything but hear what the other person has to say. It is like our ears have atrophied from lack of use. So much of what I see out there are problems of all or nothing thinking. Someone draws a line and unless you bend 100 percent to their way of seeing things nothing productive happens. They are inflexible, even in the face of reason, rational discourse, fact, and scientific proof, they will argue to opposite just to be objectionable, just because, and for no other reason than to be the thorn in the side of the other person. If I can not get what I want completely, well I will make you regret ever trying to get anything. I’m not immune, no one is, every person, has a vested interest in their own success. Every problem ultimately will require you to do something. You can choose to do nothing, which ultimately will cause something to happen, perhaps what you don’t want to happen. How did compromise become such a bad thing? Argument for the sake of argument is fine in a philosophical debate where the consequences are not real and no one is ultimately affected by a poor choice. Debate is useful and even enlightening. However it does require a skill we seem to ignore. That is listening to the other side of the argument. We can see where pit falls may occur but there does come a time when debates have to end and progress has to occur. This isn’t just a person to person level problem whole governments have this problem. Our government has it on every level, and around the world, 3 entire governments were dissolved this week. Why? The simple inability and unwillingness to listen, to communicate, or to compromise, to a point where those in leadership were left with no other option than to say, well this is just not working, you are all fired, we are starting over. Sadly though the same people are likely to be elected right back into office and nothing will happen again. Stubbornness can be a virtue when it means that you are unwilling to stop trying to improve yourself. However doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results and not seeing why you are failing isn’t stubbornness it is insanity. Every good manager, leader, chief, or person in charge worth a damn in my life has had the exact same thing in common. They would listen to what you had to say and if you had a gripe, bitch, or complaint about anything they all said the same thing. What can we do differently? If you had a plan they would listen, they would debate, and they would try to sink your idea. Not to be shitty about it, but to used debate and experience to see if it would unravel the idea. Very few times was a logical alternative that would work or make things better was ever turned down. When it was it was because resources were not available to make the plan happen but those good leaders took the ideas to the next level and tried to make them work. We need to have more discussion, open and transparent, with no hidden agendas, real cooperative progress, that makes a difference for both sides of the discussion. All or nothing usually ends with nothing for either side in the end. Well, that’s all for now, other stuff to follow most likely Happy Birthday if it’s your birthday and a very merry un birthday if it isn’t your birthday Today’s title: lyrics from “Rat Trap” The Boomtown Rats Thank you for reading, please subscribe, Have a great day and play nice in the neighborhood. Ciao, PS 3 Gamer Tag: invisible don PO Box 4425 Roanoke VA 24015